FORGIVENESS

Every negative emotion you feel toward another person is disposed of the moment you decide to forgive that person for any wrongs which you feel they have done you. You don’t necessarily forgive them for them; you forgive them for your own self. Anger and resentment are like dead weights that’ll never let you get ahead. So today, forgive every man who has hurt you, who raped you, who cheated on you with your friend, who made you give up your job and then began to despise you, etc. The list goes on. These people have no power over your life except that which you give them. Forgive them and take back that power. This is not to say that you don’t hurt anymore. You probably still do, but you are on the path to complete healing. Only when you get rid of this weight can you progress with your wonderful life. Note that it would help not to talk to the wrong people about your anger and pain. They could trivialize it or they could blow it out of proportion and none of that is good for you. Instead, recognize people who are going through a lot and try to listen to them without bringing up your own issues. Teach them to forgive. When they do, you will have learnt yourself, how to forgive. Please talk to me if you still feel like you cannot forgive.

TAKING CHARGE

A lot of times women are told to "take charge!". No one explains what that means. It means, accept reality. Understand that you are human and you have your strengths and weaknesses. You have no control over who your parents are, who your kids are. But you have that control over your own life. Your actions are yours. They make you or mar you. As an adult, you must identify the reasons for your shortcomings, whatever they may be. Then you must decide to be better. Sometimes, being better isn't about changing who your are or how you do things. It may be about changing the way you see yourself and letting the world see you for who you are. Now, what did your mother teach you about you? To be meek and humble and docile? Hehehe! Aren't you confused already? Seeing as lots of women these days are farrrr from that description. You must find yourself. I implore you to. Find your path and follow it. We will be discussing depression soon. Bring in all your fears and share it!

DEFINITIONS

Helloooo! As this is my first post on the subject of this blog, let's take a seat and reflect on our lives. There are many reasons why women are disoriented, depressed, sad, lonely, the list goes on. Before you identify and correct any of those things, you have got to look at the beginning. With questions which tell you when you first became conscious of your own personality, and the true meaning of your gender. When you have done this, think about what you would like to change about your person. Is there anyone you would place blame for your shortcomings on? Someone who you cannot forgive? Of whom you are scared? Would you like to get on with your life?